Hello everyone,
It's been an up and down weekend and wanted to share. Most of it involves Jerry.
And it's not a bad thing - just something different in our relationship.
Among Jerry's business ventures is being the majority shareholder in a courier company in Toronto. It's still a new company and they've run in to personnel problems. There was (and still is) a chance he was going to head out there for an extended period of time. So far, it's at a best case scenario and it means likely monthly visits to Toronto for a week at a time. Jerry got word on Wednesday that he needed to be out there this week. So, I saw him off at the airport this morning.
I think this will be the longest we've been apart since we started dating (I know, a whole 5 1/2 days) so I feel pretty foolish for feeling sad. I did very good to not cry at the airport, even though it looked like both of us were going to at any moment. And I also know this business venture is very important to him. If everything works out, there's a chance he can start getting out of the day-to-day courier business in a couple years. And it means a possibility of a more stable future financially. With the ups and downs of the economy plus the dangerous side of his line of work, I have the stable long-term employment. He didn't even want me to think about considering going with him to Toronto in the event of him being there long term. Silly man - we'd cross that bridge only if it arrives.
So we're trying to make the best of the situation and I've been told hiccups like this can make relationships stronger. We're looking at living situations, financial issues, geographic location and even what both of us want for the future. It's really opened our communication level.
I still miss him though, even if it's been only a day. And he's back late Friday night.
The other thing is Friday was our 23rd month anniversary. Ok - you can laugh about that one.
So we celebrated our relationship but still had his departure in the back our of minds the whole night. We went to the movies (a proper date) and saw Up. Not a kid's movie. I cried within a couple minutes of watching it. Hallmark sad. But a great movie, positive message. Just very sedimental. Which probably started me in this mood.
Jerry completely understands that I cry over stupid sappy stuff. So does his sister. And I was even laughing at myself for crying.
Saturday was getting him ready for his trip. He needed business clothes so he picked up a plaid navy sportcoat to go with a couple pairs of pants he already owns. He also got a couple shirts - light green (complete surprise how well it looked) and cream. The cream has french cuffs so he can wear the bicycle cuff links I bought him for his birthday. He plans to wear this outfit for his first business meeting out there. Also got a colourful tie. It was fun shopping with him and he's actually a lot of fun to clothes shop with. Gravitates toward colour and isn't afraid to try new looks.
But since he's not the most organized person, we were up until 4am getting everything ready. We left at 5:50 for the airport (roommate drove) and got there in lots of time for his 7am flight. So, we got about an hour of sleep. After I got dropped off at home, I curled up on the futon with the furry family and slept until 5. Felt much refreshed when I got up. Mike slept on my feet and Whiskers stayed up by my shoulder. Both kept me warm and were cuddly soft.
Oh, off topic - on Saturday we also stopped at a couple garage sales and I picked up a red winter jacket ($5), a white wooden chair (7) and a retro stewardess bag ($4 - as a bike bag). We also picked up travel Yatszi for a donation. Jerry wanted it so we could play while on the train when we travel from Ottawa to Toronto. He's so sweet.
So, I need some advice. How do you handle short but regular separation from your significant other? We've got messaging and e-mail to keep in contact but do you do anything else? Any special routines? What about the emotional toll? Does it get easier after a while?
I'll work on schoolwork this week to keep busy and I know the time will go by quickly. And I'll try not to feel sorry for myself. Have a great day!
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
2 comments:
Hi Karen
As you know I have had a part time marriage for almost 6 yrs now and it does get easier. You enjoy the time you have together more and you keep in touch when you are apart through email, phone or messaging. One thing you can do is pack notes in his stuff that he will find while he is in Toronto, it will remind him that you are waiting for him when he gets back!
Hope everything is going well
I've always found the first 2-3 days are the worst, for me. After that the sadness fades enough that I can function mostly normally, and I have enough experience now to know to indulge myself a lot during those first few days. After that it's keeping myself as busy as possible, keeping my days as scheduled as possible so that I don't have too much time to dwell.
I hope things go really well for Jerry and that his sojourns don't continue longer the bare minimum.
Post a Comment